I don’t really have a witty opening line for today’s entry, or a compelling story to tell. I just have a blazing looming worry that I’m hoping ya’all can shed some perspective on. Now, I get that in the grand scheme of things, this is a concern that many people only wish to have… but to me it’s huge and getting closer all the time.
You see, we’re working really hard at getting out of debt. We’ve “snowballed” and “snowflaked” our debts fanatically enough that I see there’s a light at the end of this tunnel. It won’t be this year, and may not be next year, but it’s coming. That’s not the problem (obviously).
Here’s the problem… Mark and I have 6 children, total. Two of them are already in college. One of them is a Junior in high school. By the time we’re in a position to fund college accounts, half of our children will be beyond needing them.
When I think about this, I spend a lot of time kicking myself for not getting our stuff together sooner. I worry that the older girls will resent us because “oh sure, NOW you have money to help with college”. Granted, neither Mark nor I had any help with college expenses, but nonetheless, this makes me feel like a failure.
How do we deal with the hurt feelings and let downs of the older children, when they see us doing more for their siblings than we can do for them? How do we, as parents, figure out a way to make the inequity go away? Is that possible?
Have you experienced this before, either as the parent or the child? How WOULD you deal with it, if you were in our shoes?